Expectant & Birth Parent FAQs

What can I expect from ABC?

Our trained staff will help you with decision making about adoption and then give you the opportunity to choose the potential adoptive family and meet them. We’ll be there to help you ask questions to the family and help you develop a level of comfort with them and with your decision. 


If you are considering placing a newborn, we’ll be there to talk with you after the baby is born, and support you emotionally. If you are considering placing an infant, toddler or child, we will be there to help prepare you and your child as your child moves from your care to the adoptive parents’ care.

 

We are there to help you with any grief and loss issues that may surface. We will be there for you before, during and after the placement.

Why is ABC different from other agencies

Adoption By Choice is celebrating their 31 st year of being the oldest licensed adoption agency in Alberta. We are a medium sized agency that focuses on the support we offer to expectant and birth parents as well as creating a sense of community among the adoptive families who await a domestic adoption within Alberta. ABC also facilitates International adoptions for families who have a desire to adopt a child internationally.

 

What is unique about ABC is our partnership with the Alberta Government in a training program to support their learning as they chose to adopt through the government. Additionally, ABC provides family assessments for adoptive families who are working with the Government.

Where are you located?

​Our office is physically located in Calgary, and we have staff located in Edmonton, Medicine Hat, Lethbridge & Slave Lake. We have coverage across Alberta and can work with you regardless of your location. Some of our conversations may take place via email or over the phone, but we will definitely travel to see you in person throughout the process.

What if I don't have a car or transportation to come to your office?

Even though our office is located in Calgary, we have social workers throughout the province. ABC is happy to support you in your home, the community, or in our office. If transportation is a concern, we are able to help you with this.

What if I live in a remote part of Alberta?

We can travel to where you are and provide ongoing support over the phone or in person.

What if I don't want anyone to know about my situation?

We provide confidential services and often work with individuals who do not want their family to know about the pregnancy or adoption plan. This is your decision to make and we honour your choice. To ensure you have support, we provide life time counselling for all birth parents.

What kind of families do you work with?

The couples that have been screened and approved by Adoption By Choice are couples who desire to
have a family an are unable to due to infertility. Our families see adoption as a positive way to build their family.

How do you choose the families waiting for a child?

The families who have completed the Adoption By Choice application process have been carefully
selected and screened to ensure they are well suited for adoption. All couples and families attend training and an in-home assessment prior to being Approved for an adoption.

Can I be involved in choosing the family for my baby?

Birth parents are involved in choosing an adoption family right from the very beginning. The support
that you will receive from our social worker focuses on what family environment you envision for your child. We gain your thoughts and ideas by meeting with you prior to choosing a family.

 

At that point you will be provided photo books of the top families based on two key areas, couples who have been waiting longest  as well as how they match your criteria. You are able to take the time that you need to review these profiles to be able to make this very important decision for you and your child.

 

Once you select a profile, our social worker will coordinate a match meeting between you and the adoptive couple to introduce you and learn more about each other. If you are expecting, you will have an opportunity to discuss what’s important to you after you baby is born.

How much does it cost to place my child with another family?

All counselling to birth parents is offered free of charge. Counselling is provided to birth mothers, birth fathers and their families before, during and after the adoption placement. In fact, there are no fees for creating an adoption plan for expectant parents.

Can a birth mother receive any money from the adoptive family?

No, it is illegal for there to be an exchange of money between birth parents and adoptive parents in the province of Alberta.

What will be child be told about me and the adoption?

Your child and their well-being is our priority. The training that adoptive couples receive helps to
prepare them for these conversation and what questions they can expect from their child. Open
adoption means that your child will have the information about you and their biological family that
helps them to understand where they come from. Most importantly, their identity is defined by
their story, which includes you.

How much contact can I have with my baby? Can I choose to be uninvolved?

The level of openness with your child and with the adoptive family is your decision. As a birth parent,
you are in charge of how much or how little you are involved. It is common for this to change over time
for you as your desire changes. This is ok, and can be determined by you.

Are arrangements for contact legally binding?

It is very important that you find a family that you can trust to maintain openness and a connection with you in the years ahead.  Arrangements for contact are morally binding, however the child’s best interest will guide the frequency and kind of contact agreed to. Contact arrangements are not legally binding.

What if I change my mind?

You can change your mind at any point during your pregnancy leading up to the birth of the child. We will be here to support you through any doubts or questions you might have. 

Once you sign a Consent by Guardian to Adoption form, you would have ten full days after signing the consent, to change your mind. Within those ten days the infant or child would be returned to you in the case that you change your mind. It's normal to have doubts during this time and we would be available any time to support you through those doubts.

 
Beyond the ten day revocation period, in order to have the child returned to your care, you would have to hire a lawyer and go to court, and a judge would make a decision as to what is in the child's best interest. 

When do I sign a consent form to the adoption?

Adoption consents can be signed 24 hours after the baby is born when you decide it's the right decision for you and your child. 

Can I parent my child and then look at adoption when they are older?

Certainly. You do not have to place your child for adoption at birth. You may choose to parent and look at adoption if parenting becomes more difficult than you thought. It is generally not difficult to find adoptive families for children under four years of age.

Will the adoptive parents come to the hospital?

This is your decision to make. During your match meeting with the adoptive couple you’ve selected and the social worker, this will be discussed to best meet your wishes and needs after the baby is born.

Will my child be in foster care?

Generally the child will go directly from your care to the adoptive parents care. If you needed more time to make a good decision and you couldn’t look after your child, then temporary arrangements can be made with Alberta Children’s Services for the child to go into foster care until you have a plan in place.

How long does it take for the adoption to be finalized?

It usually takes between 4 to 6 months for an adoption to be finalized at the Court of Queen’s Bench.

What are the birth father's rights?

According the Family Law Act, a legal consent for adoption will be required by the birth father if he is deemed a guardian. Each situation is unique, but at Adoption By Choice we will do our best to engage birth fathers in planning for their child, or maintaining connection following placement.

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